I hate skinny bitches.... too.....

Here I am on a Saturday night, long and stressful week it was. Thinking of an indulgence that involves dancing is a task on its own. Not in the mood of heading to the village, and mingling with the young reveling gay crowds, while the older ones are right on your case. I want something different, I want some sort of attention.

There it is, your call came through asking me to come along to a house party. Ooh what a nice alternative, I quickly dabbled through the closet to pick out my favorite pant that accentuates my rather big hip (what a hip for a guy, I need to have a chat with my mama), that seems a bit out of place with my slender body!

Here I am feeling confident about myself and you thought you could put a dent to that. "I hate skinny bitches!" were your words, my buddies were like "huh?". And you reaffirmed that, "I hate skinny bitches! I like men with some meat on them. But the skinny bitches, they think they can get what they want, sleep with all men, my 2 ex-bfs cheated on me with skinny bitches."

Am I one to apologize for being skinny? Nope! I simply ignored your ignorance, albeit jealousy. I felt like I needed to gain some pounds at that instant, but it barely lasted for 5 mins, I wanna dance tonight, I wanna flirt, I wanna shake what my mama gave, even though I am not very good at it, nothing aint getting in my way.

We stepped into the party, I made my rounds of saying hellos and sharing light-hugs with few people I know in there, need I mention cute guys too. There you are fuming with anger and jealousy. I pressed the "iggy" button, I asked for us to go get some drinks, we chilled at the corner doing some gossip, you called my attention to the cute guy standing by the door way, I acknowledged he's cute as well. You made it obvious you wanna hook up with him. I told you to go ahead and do your thing.

For some reason unknown, I found myself talking with your cute guy. I pressed the iggy button again after seeing the look on your face. You wanted to go downstairs for a smoke, I followed you but I had to leave you before you finished your smoke because some creepy guy was on my case. By the time you got back to the party you saw me exchanging numbers with some cute guy you've been apparently eyeing. Blame the fatal attraction, not me!!

At the end of the night you saw me leaving the party with your cute guy, he's only my ride, but you dont know that! You couldnt hide your anger by now and I thought its high time I stopped pressing the iggy button. Hence, I looked right into your eyes and said : "I HATE SKINNY BITCHES, TOO!!", while I sashayed my way out of the party!

easy way out??......

where is this thing that the world seems to revolve around?? i think its not easily attainable yet i can feel its inevitable presence, so close always thinking its closer than i think, well i am still trying comprehend its concept, maybe its existence.

i just dont understand why everything seems like a race. we all strive to become something, achieve something, sometimes we dont care about stumbling blocks, whatever the obstacle might be, we dont let it get in the way. well for the determined folks, we rage on, we soldier on , we fight on until we achieve that which it is we are slaving for.

its a race, its a fight, its a battle, for the pursuit of happiness that is! whoever that knows where it is, where it can be easy, where one can avoid the wandering around in circles, whoever that has the key let me know!!!

still on.. Homosexuality and the Nigerian society

Then there was a public outcry, well make that international outcry when the then government of Nigeria tried to ban homosexuality, not that homosexuality has always been legal afterall. Whatever happened to that bill? There are speculations that it has been passed.......

But talking about the issue of homosexuality in Nigeria, I think the government is actually helping to increase its awareness, even though the average poor gay guy still stand a chance to be victimized by overzealous hypocritical fellow citizens, people are now starting to realize "their existence" and with the world being a global village with more people clamoring for human rights, I think it actually helps the same-sex loving individual afterall.

Call it during one of my random musing on the internet, I was stunned to realize there is a gay-oriented movie by popular stars out there already and some well known director is investing his resources on producing one. And the one that actually flatters your favorite naijadude is about comments going on forums expecting my reaction to it. Unfortunately, I didnt know about it earlier.

Which calls for the question, is the Nigerian society ready to talk about someone being gay? Is it still the taboo like it used to be known? Mind you, the word "used" is not used lightly. When you've got mainstream media talking about it, movies trying to showcase and explain that "I didnt choose to be it" , "I am not who you think I am, I am just afraid you wont accept me" .

What else could the gay activist ask for? Government acceptance? Less presumed hatred from the masses? I will say its a work in progress , they've got to cast a stone at a time, perhaps they hope the government never stop their hypocritical cry about it....it might favor that gay guy longing for acceptance after all.

ps: to you fool leaving childish and hateful comments on my blog, BACK THE HELL OFF!!! you'd be really foolish to think I will publish your comments, despite, you keep coming back...

update: little do I know about the consequences about the interview, funmi iyanda's show was nearly cancelled because of the interview she did for the gay activist.

"How naïve I was, immediately after the interview (see clips) aired, Bisi Alimi was thrown out of his home, beaten mercilessly and had to go into hiding. On my part, I got heckled and sent hate mail and letters for supporting homosexuality. My Friday edition was cancelled by the network, the rest of the show was taken off the live format, all my guests and shows from that time are screened and censored and l was banned from ever raising political or certain social issues up until now. In fact one of the reasons I started this blog is to find a space to breathe, an alternative voice."

I bet I wont hesitate to heed to the advice of my blogger friend that Nigeria isnt quite ready for me... sad!!

The Smile

What do you do when your heart is breaking? When the tears are ever so near? I know the answer will be to give in to it, but you can always light up your face with gladness, hide every trace of sadness, just smile!

The smile gives a relief, gives you hope that life is still worthwhile, but only if you just smile.

The smile is a façade, to cover up the sadness, the smile helps you to get the problem behind you, the smile aids in getting the relief you so desire, rather than let people see the sadness on you and ask questions, even though they can’t help. But the smile changes it all, the smile makes you believe it will be fine, with confidence that is. Smile, and maybe tomorrow you will the sun shine through the dark cloud.

So why don’t you just keep smiling, and light up your face with gladness and believe that your best days are ahead.

Happy birthday to my fav. Overwhelmednaijababe!!

Its my sweetie tangerine overwhelmednaijababe's birthday!

You have been nothing short of a wonderful person, sister, confidant, and a friend!

Do I recall you were gonna go to a church in a november just to light a candle for me?
Even though i cant shake my non-existent booty like you can do yours, I still try to do lagbaja's konko below better!
Thanks for giving me the confidence at the time I needed it most..

Sorry I have been short of a friend, but you know as your official "overwhelmednaijaBOBO" I am forgiven... hahaha

HAPPY BIRTHDAY and I wish you well in your new year !!!

SUPER-DUPER TUESDAY

I have been very busy, I barely have time to approve comments not to talk of having time to blog, but i have been paying close attention to US elections. Lots to write about later......

Its SUPER TUESDAY!! I am lowering the expectation in part to the media charade about the Obama candidacy and the rash set of endorsements coming thru for him.

I hope you are watching the SUPER TUESDAY as I am watching with a level playing field, nonetheless I know who the WINNER is gonna be, but unfortunately the race is far from being over......


Enjoy!!

RACE CARD!!!

Guess who started the race card??

NY Times Endorses Clinton

NEW YORK (AP) — The New York Times editorial board has endorsed Sens. Hillary Rodham Clinton and John McCain in the presidential primary race.

In editorials posted Thursday on the newspaper's Web site, the board argued forcefully on Clinton's behalf, while saying that McCain, R-Ariz., was the best of a flawed GOP field with which the board had "strong disagreements."

The board said its case for Clinton, D-N.Y., was based on more than her accomplishments, adding that the senator "sometimes overstates the importance of resume."

"Hearing her talk about the presidency, her policies and answers for America's big problems, we are hugely impressed by the depth of her knowledge, by the force of her intellect and by the breadth of, yes, her experience," it said.

The board also spoke favorably of Clinton's main rival for the Democratic nomination, Sen. Barack Obama of Illinois, calling him "incandescent." But it concluded that "we need more specifics to go with his amorphous promise of a new governing majority, a clearer sense of how he would govern."

"Voters have to judge candidates not just on the promise they hold, but also on the here and now."

The board wrote that it disagreed forcefully with the leading Republican candidates on Iraq, the economy and their support of President Bush.

But McCain, the editorial said "is the only Republican who promises to end the George Bush style of governing from and on behalf of a small, angry fringe."

The editorial also excoriated former New York Mayor Rudy Giuliani, saying that he "first shamelessly turned the horror of 9/11 into a lucrative business, with a secret client list, then exploited his city's and the country's nightmare to promote his presidential campaign."

"The real Mr. Giuliani, whom many New Yorkers came to know and mistrust, is a narrow, obsessively secretive, vindictive man who saw no need to limit police power. Racial polarization was as much a legacy of his tenure as the rebirth of Times Square," the board said.

New York is among more than 20 states that will hold primary contests on Feb. 5.

Asked about the editorial Thursday night at a Republican debate in Boca Raton, Fla., Giuliani said the Times attack was "because I probably never did anything The New York Times suggested I do in eight years as mayor of New York City. And if I did, I wouldn't be considered a conservative Republican.

"I changed welfare. I changed quality of life. I took on homelessness. I did all the things that they thought make you mean, and I believe show true compassion and true love for people," Giuliani said.

"So the reality is that I think there is serious ideological differences. That probably was some of the nicest language they've written about me in the last six months," he added.

On the Net:

• New York Times editorial: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/25/opinion/25fri1.html?_r1&refopinion&oref slogin

-AP News